Film Review: Stuber and the lessons for men and women

Gary : July 17, 2019 7:14 am : blog, Uncategorized

The movie STUBER poses as a madcap comedy about a relentless cop tracking down a drug dealer with the help of an UBER driver who the policeman kidnapped.

    STUBER is really a tender love story about the fragile relationship the policeman has with his daughter.
    STUBER fantastically presents human dynamics.
    The daughter feels her father doesn’t care about her because he constantly ignores her while relentlessly pursuing criminals.
  There are two lessons here.
    LESSON FOR WOMEN: The fact your father or boyfriend or spouse ignores you doesn’t mean he doesn’t love you deeply.
       LESSON FOR MEN:   Men: Make the important woman in your life feel your are exclusive and she is extremely important to you. Women desperately need emotion security.  Women don’t have emotional security unless the man in her life makes her feel she is important to him.
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Love And Fulfillment In Love: Just a thought

Gary : April 3, 2019 10:32 am : Afterglow, blog

Dear ReaderThere are two reasons people “love” their boyfriend girlfriend spouse:

*They find out who they are while “loving” the other person.

*Loving the other person fulfills them.

WOMAN: When a man is with the right woman they are caught together in the net of life and time, fellow prisoners of the splendor and travail of the earth.

They are gifted with an extension of senses everyone else has lost or never attained; they begin living by voices we shall never hear. \

They fill up each other’s senses. They entice each other to #explore in a way they never have before.



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About Caviar

Gary : March 13, 2019 7:09 am : Afterglow, blog

It is important for a gentleman to properly distinguish the traditional use of the word Caviar from the present common use of the word/name (noun) Caviar.
Is Caviar a noun or an adjective?

For my own education, and out of curiosity, I will look into the origin of the pink “food” called Caviar I was eating on a cracker yesterday morning.


I have been on two new intensely exciting adventures since the end of last year:

  • an high speed emotionally and intellectual intense new growing relationship adventure of exchanging acts of love with one woman and
  • an intense culinary adventure of eating meals and dishes she chooses. She often prepares food dishes and meals, brings me delectable things to eat that I have never tasted before and orders things to eat and drink for me when we go out.

She has lived a multicultural life since the day she was born.

Being with her every day is like being on a never ending “It’s A Small World” ride at Disneyland.


My female friend loves to discuss recipes.

I am sure without having any ingredients nearby, she is very capable of tasting and smelling the ingredients in the dishes someone else is preparing and she is instantly able to discuss the final product.

Last night she explained to me how to prepare asparagus – while I was cooking dinner for the two of us.

While talking to me she sliced a banana, put whipped cream and chocolate sauce on the banana slices and put each slice of banana on a graham cracker.

She munched on that treat while dinner was being prepared.



She told me there are two types of people in the world:

+ Those who have played SCRABBLE with her and lost; and

+The rest of the world.

But now back to caviar-

Caviar (less often, caviare) is a delicacy consisting of salt-cured roe of the Acipenseridae family. The roe can be “fresh” (non-pasteurized) or pasteurized, with pasteurization reducing its culinary and economic value.[1]

The rarest and most expensive form of caviar comes from the critically endangered beluga sturgeon that swims in the Caspian Sea

The pair of shoes in the photograph below is a tooth brush holder.

The other photos below are of my breakfast this morning.

Crackers with a light dab of butter covered with a stack of caviar

Lox (smoked salmon)


Red Onions



Cream Cheese

Lessons Learned:

You don’t have to go to Russia to eat Russian Caviar.

You don’t have to go out with the woman of your dreams to have a sexy experience.

Eating breakfast at home with the right lady is a sexy experience.

Being “together” anywhere doing anything with the right woman is a sexually fulfilling experience.

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On #Foreplay And #Afterglow- New Columns

Gary : February 26, 2019 10:24 am : Afterglow, blog

Dear ReaderBelow are two pictures to help your imagination.


Imagine a man entertaining a woman at his place.


He has Honey Crisp Apples.


He starts slicing an apple.


He puts the sliced apple on a plate.


Then he heats a bottle of chocolate syrup in the microwave.


Then he takes the bottle of hot chocolate syrup out of the microwave.


You can guess what happens next..


I highly recommend SANTA CRUZ organic CHOCOLATE flavored syrup.


By the way, “Open the flap before heating. Do not shake the hot bottle.”


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Men Can Cook

Gary : February 6, 2019 12:27 pm : blog

MEN CAN COOK Photo of tomatoes stuffed with cheese and crumbled Smoked Gouda Triscuit about to become stewed tomatoes then to be served with roast leg of lamb with pearl onions and red potatoes for homemade dinner tonight.

After we take the roast leg of lamb out of the over we are going to make rosemary based gravy. That is what I am having for dinner tonight in my apartment. Saturday night homemade dinner. After working ten hours in my office today.

We are also having honey carrots and garlic bread with our leg of lamb main course tonight. For dessert we are having baked apple.

BACHELOR RECIPE FOR BAKED APPLE: Cut and core apple then fill with red hots and a little cinnamon.

We are also having HONEY CARROTS and Garlic Bread

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Always Be Stylish- Even if you’re too scared to take a chance on relationships

Gary : February 4, 2019 12:22 am : blog

Many women have had their heartbroken by a man and don’t want that to happen again.
Consequences: They don’t cut themselves any slack or the menu men in their lives any slack. The least they can do if they want to be stylish is to always be wearing good shoes.

RESPONSE 1: “if you are going to kick my ass please be wearing good shoes.”’
RESPONSE 2: “Well, if a woman is going to rip your gills off, it is good that she is wearing great shoes!”

OBSERVATION: He has a look of terror as she is ripping his gills off! Women were not defenseless in vintage sci-fi; women are not defenseless today!

There is a natural kindness that many men possess.  
They like to help women.
They will help a woman no matter what the woman is wearing, no matter how the woman looks, or how well she is dressed.
There is no need for anyone to use their body to get things.
Some things are just kindly given.
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Life Without Art Is Useless

Gary : January 27, 2019 12:49 am : blog

Save urban wildlife.

There is art everywhere.

Life without Art is artless.

A zillion adventures begin/are set loose in your life when you travel.

Do you like coffee? Coffee originally came from Africa, it was first cultivated in Ethiopia. Let’s have a coffee in Zanzibar in the Zanzibar Coffee House. Zanzibar is a historical trade route.

There are lots of inexpensive hotels there.

And also: Life without art is artless


Wall art painted on walls of a multitude of buildings make Venice,. California especially, cool, hip and glamourous. Gary Smolker, Fashion Blogger

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The Feminization of Men (and Society)

Gary : January 19, 2019 4:33 pm : blog

We have a collective memory. Some people among us have experience memory  and  knowledge  embedded in their DNA when they are born from five generations hence. They have memory embedded in their DNA of things they “saw” before they were “born” and of things that they saw that will happen in the future.

They remember everything they hear including what they had heard before they were born.

More and more of them are amongst us. They are touchy feely and highly sensual.

NEWS FLASH: In a recent survey 99 out of 100 women said they want to be men in their next life.

This realization seems to provoke passionate responses from feminists and those who aren’t.

How does that survey/headline play into the “ME TOO MOVEMENT”, the “Feminist Movement”, the expression “PENIS ENVY.”?
Have you ever met a BITTER WOMAN?
Due to modern fertility technology – artificial insemination – Many women think they don’t need men in order to have a baby – and that men are basically sperm donators.
Have you ever heard this thought:: “The benefit of a relationship is not worth the effort necessary to have a relationship … not worth the effort.?
Have you ever heard this thought: “ Can’t live with them, can’t live without them.”?
What percentage of the men think all women are crazy it is just a matter of degree?
I told a woman I would like to find a women just like my mother was.
She replied, “They don’t make them like that anymore.”
“OLD FASHIONED” AND “THIS AIN’T KANSAS TOTO” have a whole new meaning today.



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Feed Your Soul Spirit

Gary : January 11, 2019 9:25 am : blog


Love is the light of the world.

Feel the power of love in a LOVE POEM written on a garage door fronting on an alley in Venice,California (or any street in your zip code).

Love adorns the world with beauty. Love brings its kindness and imagination to all things. Love needs no persuasion to be real.

Love never ends.

Relatedness is the lifeline of every living being.


She told me that before reading what I wrote. ADVICE: Words have many meanings. “Break me down. Pick me up.” Has many meanings.

I interpreted those words completely differently than she did. We are all constantly evolving.

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HAPPY NEW YEAR- Learn To Listen

Gary : January 2, 2019 10:01 am : blog

I drank two glasses of calming tea in the three hour time period from 7:00 p.m. to 10:00 p.m. last night while listening to a women passionately describe the hummus she had made earlier in the day that would be served at her family’s New Year’s Eve dinner. This women is very inspirational.

I have seen her the past three nights. She is an ideologue full of pathos, logos and a good sense of humanity. THE PASt THREE NIGHTS SHE INSPIRED ME WITH HER PASSION VERVE INTELLIGENCE AND WILD ABANDON.

Sunday night we sat in P.F.Chang’s talking to each other until the restaurant closed after seeing the MULE – with the waiter’s permission we didn’t order anything or a “drink” because we were not hungry.

I left a substantial tip in cash when we left the table we had been sitting at. Women are fun to talk to. DGTWS dedicates 2019 paying homage to women.

At DGTWS, it is our duty and our responsibility to inform our male readers that exciting down to earth intelligent women exist.

ASIDE: When I told the woman I was with on New Year’s Eve up to 10:00 p.m. of my desire to find a woman to cook with, she told me she and the women she knows cook alone; they even wash and cut vegetables themself because if anyone else was helping them they would just get in the way … slow down the process and might lower the quality of the final product.

Lesson Learned Guys: Alway be helpful, but first learn to listen to your women. If she thinks you’re getting in the way- then go grab drink, flip on the TV sports and oblige her by letting her know you’re available if she needs you. You’ll both be happier.

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What Do Beverly Hills Women Want? First, don’t be too invested . . .

Gary : November 5, 2018 11:21 pm : blog

Welcome to our Halloween Post-Mortem column (all pun intended).

This year I lost my way then found it again at a very private party up in the Beverly Hills. Never mind that daytime Beverly Hills reminds me of an expensive nursing home. Everyone here likes to talk about the great things they did . . .20 years ago.

Or even better, they talk a big game about what they’re going to do (as long as someone else comes along to do the hard work of pulling their wagon). ASIDE: Here’s a bit of advice to those of you ambitious types who plan to move to L.A. to make your fortune:






Do not move to Beverly Hills. Your wealthy neighbors have nothing to prove, are living out-to-pasture, or worse, married into their money and will be of no use in helping launch the Next Big Idea you are trying to get off the ground.

Okay, back on topic-The Beverly Hills Halloween party and my inability to drink alcohol most of the time. This means I have to be engaging with strangers and attractive women who likely have as much money as me or more- and do this all using my own wits. Terrifying, no?

But your intrepid columnist has an advantage you likely don’t- I was once engaged to a Playboy Playmate and learned quite a few things about the subtleties in the way super-hot women of all backgrounds evaluate men. Suffice it to say, I applied just one of these lessons on Halloween, surrounded this night by very attractive models from all over Europe and the U.S. at this exclusive party at the home of a very attractive and enigmatic German expat named Sofia. (Sofia is what I never thought I would meet- a human female who is actually shaped like a Barbie Doll- see above photo).

My lesson applied? Be friendly. Be in the moment with the person you’re talking to- but NEVER BE INVESTED IN ANY OUTCOME. Talk a hot woman and tell her she’s funny (or smart), just never compliment her looks like all the other schmucks she talks to during her day. Let her know you’re single and and then hit her with this- “You’re adorable and you’d be a great catch – for my golfing partner (or brother, or biz partner, etc).

And then introduce her to one of the other guys at the party she doesn’t know. Obviously, this means you’ve scouted out some of the more interesting/attractive guys beforehand, learned a little bit about them and remember their names.

This is how dating non-investment works. You’re engaging, interested, but not afraid to expand your new lady friend’s social horizons with other interesting people. Don’t be afraid that the woman in question will be whisked away by the other guys- they will return back to you during the night because only you have shown extraordinary self-confidence, charm, and a concern for her social prospects beyond what you want from her. You show that you are willing to add value to her life, not just trying to get something like a selfish womanizer.

And after you do this- RINSE AND REPEAT with another hot girl. God forbid you come away with several gorgeous women who want to be your pal. Nothing wrong with that, it’s all good. And actually very helpful in finding a long-term relationship- but more on that in another post.

This is the behavior of an Alpha Male at any income level, in any zip code. You are not invested in how she JUDGES you. You are not a wuss like the rest of the dorks trying to make her the center of their lives instead of inviting her to join you on the interesting and exciting path you are traveling.

Hey, it works for me. Now go get busy . . .





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Halloween Treat- A common secret of your future success

Gary : October 31, 2018 1:50 am : blog
Believe or not I once had an imaginary one question employment application form. The one question I asked was the following question: ARE YOU A MANIAC?
Meet “Boo.” I met Boo in Rio de Janeiro. In August.  Boo is a Management Consultant.
Meet “Lisa.” I met Lisa in 29 Palms in May. Lisa is a Drum Medicine Woman.”
The four of us probably have more in common than we can possibly imagine.
One of the wonderful things about Trump’s business experience is the lesson you can make huge mistakes and be a huge success anyways.
CONCLUSION: Being a maniac makes a big difference.
Being a maniac is important. … when I met Boo and when I met Lisa – sparks flew on my maniac energy counter.
They are both bright lights, extremely high energy.  I predict they sometimes get carried away.
When they enter a room, the room lights up from the force of their purposeful intellect and mania (enthusiasm, vitality, and positive energy) oozes out of their pores.
By the way, my friend Paul Fegen – who has found nationwide show biz fame after he turned 70 is known by his close friends for his dynamic hard core entrepreneurship – and his extremely high energy too –
Paul never stops going. Nothing (not even failure) stops Paul.
Paul has fast hands – the hand is quicker than the eye type fast hands- and never stops doing card tricks and never stops doing deals
I am sure Donald Trump, you, Boo and Lisa live in a state of inner calm because of your high intensity approach to everything you take in and because each of you is hyper trained and in a constant state of hyper training.
Ask any Olympic Gold Medal Winner – about their training, practice.
They will tell you pain comes with the territory.
You have to love what you are doing  more than you hate the pain to win an Olympic Gold Medal or anything else.
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“Diamonds Melt” And Other Sage Advice From Young Women

Gary : October 19, 2018 10:48 am : blog

“Clearly, she doesn’t have a dog!”

Last night I attended a lecture in Santa Monica, California titled “What We Know About the Inside of the Earth.”

Among other things the lecturer – who is working on a PhD in Geology at UCLA – told us diamonds are not forever. “If you leave your diamonds out and your house burns down your diamonds will melt.”

I told that to a woman this morning. She replied, “Diamonds might not last forever, but they still are a ‘girl’s’ best friend.”

ASIDE: Healthy relationships require emotional, intellectual and spiritual depth.

COMMENT 1: Clearly, she doesn’t have a dog.

COMMENT 2: Healthy relationships require emotional, intellectual and spiritual depth.

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Art Conquers All- or, Alternate Reality Etc . .

Gary : October 9, 2018 10:41 am : blog


I saw a pancake advertisement on a sign on Ventura Blvd in Sherman Oaks yesterday that was a picture of a pancake with the caption, “Chocolate Chip Macadamia Nut Pancake. I thought, “How boring.”


Compare that saccharine sentimental chocolate chip macadamia nut pancake advertisement to the photograph of a painting of a stack of pancakes on a wall (see above) with sexual energy – a sexual undertone – I took two days ago at Myke’s Cafe. Gary Smolker, Fashion Blogger

COMMENT NUMBER ONE: Myke’s Cafe serves extraordinarily delicious buttermilk pancakes. I love their buttermilk pancakes.

COMMENT NUMBER TWO: The painting (see photo) creates a magical moment in the viewer’s sub-conscience by sending the under the radar imaginary strong edgy emotion provoking enticing non-verbal message: “EAT ME! I want to be eaten. I am supposed to be eaten. I am delicious.”

COMMENT NUMBER THREE: Myke’s is famous for its extraordinarily delicious buttermilk pancakes. Myke’s is an edgy place.

The AMBIANCE and menu at Myke’s shouts out, “Victory belongs to the bold.” Comment Number Four: That painting is painted on a wall in a unisex bathroom at Myke’s Cafe.

COMMENT NUMBER FIVE: That painting is NOT an advertise for red high heel shoes! … the red high heels reinforce the magical fantasy, “I Am Delicious, Eat Me!”

COMMENT NUMBER SIX: If you want to enjoy life to the fullest enjoy every moment.

COMMENT SEVEN: Something raw and vibrant ( i.e., the Beatles’ song “Please Please ME”) beats dreary boring normal every time.

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Defy The Digital World- Say Yes To Life With Style

Gary : October 8, 2018 7:36 pm : blog

With the rise of AI and 3-D printers mankind’s biological drives will not go away. To keep our mental balance all of us will continue to say yes to life with style no matter how advanced computer technology becomes.

Look at the beautiful simple hat that woman is wearing. Her choice to wear the simple hat she is wearing sends the message to me that she is more interesting refined logical exciting and orderly and has a better sense of packaging and style than the newest model of iPhone.

PERSONAL OBSERVATION: I recently spent three weeks as a tourist on a sight seeing and culinary adventure in Brazil. I found the Brazilian women I met to be warm welcoming friendly sexy and openly accepting of their own bodies. Female Sexuality throbbed in my nostrils every time I breathed, with every breath I took in Brazil, everywhere I went in Brazil.

GOAL: I plan to go to Carnaval in Rio to watch and to photograph and to be part of the free—flowing joy and ecstasy of a population full blast celebrating the miracle and gift of being alive.

QUESTION: Does the hat make the woman? A: No! It’s her packaging and sense of style.

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