Don’t Be Discouraged – by Gary Smolker

Gary Smolker : February 12, 2017 4:50 pm : blog

Do you like those boots?

They are ten year old suede Franco Sarto Boots.

And the woman wearing them (Jen) is wholesome dynamite.

So, don’t get any ideas.

On the other hand, don’t be discouraged.

Don’t Be Discouraged

Men get discouraged too easily.

Guys: Don’t be discouraged so easily!

Did you ever have a woman tell you on your first date: “We are not going to be anything but friends?”

That is woman talk for “Don’t think about having sex for me.  It is never going to happen.”*

Believe me.  That is not the end of the world.

My “wife” Jennifer, before we got married, told me something along the lines of: “You are a horrible person!”

That is/was woman talk for

“Stay away from me. 

“I don’t want you in my life. 

“This is going to be our last conversation. 

“We are never going to speak to each other again.”

Jen and the Channel Purse


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Butt Ugly Shoe Alert Feb. 10

Gary : February 11, 2017 9:31 pm : blog

Elle Fanning (please not again!)

MON LEGIONS! As faithful readers and followers of DGTWS you all know we busy ourselves with the dirty work of making your world safe for your tender eyes. As Instructor Gary has stated, “We own beautiful” when it comes to shoes.

And now Elle Fanning is back, playing the villain against our mission in life. Such a pretty young actress. Such ugly shoe choices. This is getting pathological, kids. White chocolate-covered mess, no?

By now we all know Elle as the very young actress who played Sleeping Beauty opposite Angelina Jolie in Maleficent a couple years back. What we didn’t know is that Elle has had a witch’s spell cast over her feet ever since.

The only thing worse than Elle wearing her ugly shoe collection is that there are other troubled celebs who would shoplift this hideous footwear.


My good friend Bob B. used to help run an expensive rehab in Malibu. Rehabs can be hit-and-miss, even the better ones. But one thing they tend to do is segregate the self-abuser from society and put them in a peaceful environment with zen gardens, ocean views, and psychological help and peaceful affirmations every day until they start to feel better and throw away all their nasty white powders lurking in their pockets.

We can start a Crowdfunder campaign to send Elle to Promises in Malibu – the ugly shoe addict section. Anyone? Anyone?


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Life Is As Good As the People You Are Surrounded By – by Gary Smolker

Gary Smolker : February 11, 2017 9:13 am : blog


William Shakespeare says:

Life is but a walking shadow, a poor player,

That struts and and frets his hour upon the stage,

And then is heard no more.  It is a tale

Told by an idiot, full of sound and fury,

Signifying nothing.

– – William Shakespeare, “Macbeth,” scene V

I Disagree.

I have lived life and I have caught life.

Good Times

I always have a good time when I am surrounded by people who are having a good time.


People who make the right decisions have a good time.

That is why I surround myself with people who are having a good time and stay away from people who are not having a good time.

It is impossible to have a good time when the other people around you are not having a good time.

Choices = Decisions

Women signal they are desirable and that we will have a good time if we are with them when they wear footwear which facilitates the light within them to shine brightly.

Good Cheer

Each and every woman knows men can tell if she is a person bubbling over with good cheer by looking at her footwear.

Emoting Beauty

At lunch time, on Friday afternoon, February 10, 2017, I met two women at “Nuts N Berries Cafe” (located on Ventura Blvd. in Encino, California) whose footwear signaled to me it would be fun to be with them.

I could immediately tell, before they said anything or did anything, that each one of them are the type of woman who is always happy and makes anyone who is with them happy.

It was obvious to me that if I spoke to either one of them they would be happy to talk to me, even though I was a complete stranger, and when I was with them they would constantly bubble over with good cheer.


The first woman I saw at lunch today was wearing “Guess Boots.”

I found out her name is Lauren.

While cool jazz music played in the background, Lauren and I, who had never met before, got acquainted while waiting for our food.

Below is a picture I took of the “Guess Boots” Lauren was wearing.

I could tell by looking at those boots that Lauren is a fun person.

Lauren ordered a Mushroom Soup and also ordered a Spinach and Arugula Salad containing organic baby spinach, arugula, cherry tomato, goat cheese, roasted pine nuts and lemon vinaigrette.

I ordered a “Turkey Blues Sandwich” – a sandwich which contains oven-roasted turkey breast, blue cheese crumbles, roasted red bell pepper, tomato, red onion, cucumber and mayo.

I also ordered an “Arawsh Salad” – a salad which consists of romaine lettuce, cucumber, cherry tomato, red onion, parsley, mint, avocado, mango, strawberries, walnuts, dates and lime vinaigrette.

Cool jazz music was playing in the background all the time.

After Lauren ordered her lunch (described above) I introduced myself.

We had a delightful conversation.

Lauren bubbled over with good cheer.

Lauren and I laughed and laughed and laughed together while we ate our lunch.


Soon after I finished speaking to Lauren, I met Jenny Gonzalez.

When I met Jenny, Jenny was sipping a cup of black lavender tea-latte, nibbling on a cookie and writing a note.

Below is a series of photographs I took, with Jenny’s permission, of Jenny.

Jennie told me she is 39 years old.

Look at the boots Jenny is wearing.

According to Jenny: those are 10 year old suede Franco Sarto Boots and they are very comfortable.

Jennie is a playful person.

I take playfulness seriously.

Jennie is an easy going fun person to be with.

I like her.


We are in a constant state of reaction, of reacting to life.

Our entire life is a reaction.

Our life will be as good as the people we are surrounded by.

Empower Yourself

Empower yourself.

Surround yourself with easy to get along with, easy going, happy, passionate people who bring life into your life.

You are the generator of who you are and what you have.

Your life is yours.

Own your life.

A simple hello could lead to a million things.

The People Around You

If people around you are not having a great life it is literally impossible for you to have a great life.

The quality of your life depends on the quality of your relationships.

If anyone is stealing your happiness let go of them.

Moving in the Direction of Your Dreams

Men and women, make sure you are moving in the direction of your dreams.

Keep things colorful and fun.

Build relationships.


Life isn’t magical on its own.  Make it magical.

Your view of life determines everything.


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Stylish Women – by Gary Smolker

Gary Smolker : February 10, 2017 2:26 pm : blog

Nuts n Berries Cafe is located a few blocks away from my office in Encino, California, USA.

Above photos taken by me while I was having breakfast on February 9, 2017 (yesterday morning) at Nuts n Berries Cafe on Ventura Blvd., in Encino, California, USA.

The stylish women who eat at the “Nuts n Berries Cafe” in Encino, California are like flowers and sunshine …. when I see them and hear the tasteful hip music playing in the background I feel totally alive and soak in all that is beautiful in that environment.

TAKE AWAY:  When you and I surround ourselves with beautiful people we feel beautiful.


I’ve learned that a flower does not think of competing with the flowers next to it.  It just blooms.

Really beautiful people have a LIGHT WITHIN IN THEM that makes them behave like flowers: they do not compete with others, they just bloom.


The woman in the above photographs is wearing Sam Edelman Boots.

Her clothing and shoe choices perfectly signal her identity; her personality and style come through in what she wears and when you meet her and speak to her you can’t help but realize everything matches.

When I saw the stylish Sam Edelman Boots she was wearing, I just had to speak to her.

When I spoke to her I discovered  beneath her beauty a personality to match.


Every day is an adventure.


Yesterday, was a winner.

I also met Kim (see photo below).

Kim was also at Nuts n Berries Cafe, to eat breakfast.

See photo of Kim, below.

Kim is wearing “Kelly-Katie” high heels.

Look at Kim’s smile.

Kim is a natural beauty, who knows how to dress.

Everywhere Kim goes Kim spreads good vibes; Kim’s natural beauty and smile cast a spell.


I’ve found I am as “good to go” as the people who surround me.

It is impossible to have a good time if no one around me is having a good time.

That is one of the multitude of reasons why I often eat my breakfast and my lunch at Nuts n Berries Cafe in Encino, when I am in Encino, California at breakfast or lunch time.

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Butt Ugly Shoe Alert Feb. 3- Carly Rae

Gary : February 3, 2017 11:49 pm : blog, Uncategorized

Okay now that your soda pop has come out of your nose and mouth and finished spraying this computer screen, let’s deal with seriousness of Carly Rae Jepsen’s condition, shall we?

These *shoes* look like they just escaped from a LEPER COLONY and now we’re afraid Carly needs to be quarantined before she spreads a horrid foot disease (or even worse, spreading bad taste).

Carly Rae may have done us all a favor five years back with her ubiquitous pop singing that was too catchy not to repeat, but now she’s dumping all that good will overboard.

If a stage 5 twister unexpectedly hit your house and sucked up your entire wardrobe that included these butt ugly shoes, we guarantee that the tornado would gag and die in 2 minutes from these hideous platforms (even Tornados have their standards).

Please Carly, call me maybe . . .before you trying buying your own shoes again!!!!

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Stuart Weitzman Shoes At “Nuts n Berries Cafe” on Ventura Blvd. in Encino, California

Gary Smolker : February 3, 2017 1:53 am : blog

Stuart Weitzman Shoes At “Nuts n Berries Cafe”

The man (Arash Majlessi) in the photo below is the owner-operator and master of cuisine at “Nuts n Berries Cafe” on Ventura Blvd. in Encino, California.

The dishes in the photos below are Vegetable Barley Soup and Arash Salad, which I ate for lunch today at “Nuts n Berries Cafe.”

The shoes are Stuart Weitzman Shoes worn by a customer (Jackie O) I met for the first time at lunch today (Thursday, February, 2, 2017) at “Nuts n Berries Cafe.”

Jackie O and I were strangers when we met and friends by the time we finished eating lunch.


Jackie O told me she bought her Stuart Weitzman Shoes at her favorite store, Neiman Marcus.

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Dude's Guide to Women's Shoes

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Gary S. Smolker Idea Exchange Blog

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Women Are Smarter Then Men

Gary Smolker : January 29, 2017 5:20 am : blog

Women Are Smarter than Men Because They Think More

Women think more then men because they have to choose which pair of shoes to wear, which dress or skirt and blouse to wear, which bag to carry, which make-up to put on and on and on and on.

The Issue of Comfort

Consider the thinking process a woman goes through when making a decision about what “kind of shoes” to wear.

It hurts to wear high heels.

Women look better/sexier in high heels: wearing high heels forces women to thrust their breasts out, to pull their shoulders back, to tighten their butt, to stand up straight.

Below is a birthday card which dramatically highlights in a graphic picture the dilemma a woman faces.

The Issue of Style

Women love gorgeous shoes and boots to make a statement or a really complete look.

The height of a woman’s shoes completely changes her posture and walk.

They dictate how a women carries herself.

They make her feel good about herself.

That is why it is so complicated for them to choose which pair of shoes to wear and why they need to own so many pair of shoes.


Gary Smolker, Fashion Blogger
Dudes Guide to Women's Shoes

Gary S. Smolker, Publisher, Book Reviewer, Movie Reviewer and Social Commentator
Gary S. Smolker Idea Exchange Blog

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Butt Ugly Shoe Alert – January 17, 2017

Gary : January 18, 2017 3:46 am : blog


True, that we think Fergie is an absolutely adorable little imp (and yes, she’s amazingly short in real life): she looks like a porcelain doll with the voice of a songbird whose album we secretly stole from our 14 year old niece’s laptop.


Get it? We think the world of Fergie- until now. This turquoise green outfit looks like Fergie mugged the wardrobe girl on the latest Batman movie and decided to become her own special brand of villain- Ugly Shoe Princess!


And now look at these horrid shoes- goblin green with those evil dragonfly wings sprouting out of the back!


WARNING: Women, don’t try this level of ugly at home -Fergie is surrounded by style professionals who helped her try these out (and we hear several of these helpers died handling these toxic-looking shoes on Fergie’s behalf).

As you can see, Fergie has absolutely beautiful feet.

On a Positive Note:  Perhaps Fergie is wearing those absolutely ugly shoes to keep men away.

If that is the case: We agree with Fergie’s decision to wear those ugly shoes to repel men who might go crazy and attack her after seeing her beautiful feet.

TAKE AWAY: Those shoes are more foreboding than Pepper Spray.

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Ugly Shoe Alert Jan. 8 (Happy Ugly New Year!)

Gary : January 9, 2017 1:23 am : blog


Okay, you wake up hungry, ready to pour yourself a nice bowl of rice crispies and then DAMN! You forgot to get milk last night.  So you do what you gotta do- run to the local store without makeup, without a shower, wearing your grubby shoes.

FIne, you’re just a normal girl. You’re fallible, but not Jessica Alba. She’s famous, and now she’s super loaded with her $Billion dollar internet company selling baby clothes or whatever. Jessica owes us more than just those butt-ugly clod hopper sandals that are now ruining my damn breakfast as I am reading this!

Jessica, you got the money so please, spend a heartbeat and un-Ugly your feet please. (groan!)

Good thing the rest of you looks hot, Jess honey. I’ll forgive you just this time.


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Butt Ugly Shoe Alert Dec 24

Gary : December 24, 2016 11:18 pm : blog

WARNING: GRAPHIC! Pregnant women and children under three strongly discouraged from reading any further.

Lady Gaga Wearing Jeffrey Campbell heel-less platforms

Lady Gaga is changing her name to Lagy Gag-Me-with-your-hideous-shoes. (As you can see . . .).

Lady needs a real heel in her life, or two. And a long maned wig made of horse hair to complete that old mare look. Wow, I’m still trying to fully absorb this horror.


Apparently, evolutionary biologists claim that a horse hoof is an evolved big toenail that covers what remains of the foot horses used to have. Ugly shoes are now speeding up the evolution of women’s feet. Who knew?


And I nominate Jeffrey Campbell for his very own law in the U.S. Federal penal code- shoe crimes against humanity. Three months eating prison food and fighting over donuts with kidnappers and counterfeiters should be enough to deter this designer behavior in the future.

There is another view.

In Freud’s 1929 Civilization and Its Discontents, Freud’s basic view was/is that human nature is intrinsically antisocial — rooted in destructive, violent, and sexual drives.

Some people believe “conformity” defeats the “spirit” and turns people into passionless, droning automata.

Lady Gaga represents modern man’s and modern woman’s revolt against slow death by conformity.

Lady Gaga has rebel cool.

For Nobel Prize winning novelist and essayist Albert Camus (see Albert Camus’s The Rebel), the act of rebellion creates values, dignity, and solidarity.  Camus says, “I rebel, therefore we exist.”

CONTRAST, if possible, Lady Gaga with Madonna.  In the last three decades no cultural icon has created more controversy than Madonna.  In November 1984 her album Like A Virgin sealed her global recognition.

Madonna went on to become the best selling solo-artist of all times and would appear on Time’s 2010 list of  The 25 Most Powerful Women of the Past Century.”  Coincidentally, she also topped Forbes’s list of the highest paid musicians of 2014, earning $125 million.

CONSIDER THESE THREE BANKABLE FACTS: [1] Women are more likely to consider themselves hipsters than men by a large margin, 16 percent to 4 percent.  [2] Women have a more favorable impressions of hipsters than man, 21 percent to 11 percent. [3] Women spend more money on musical entertainment then men.







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Butt Ugly Shoe Alert Dec 15

Gary : December 15, 2016 7:43 pm : blog

elle-fElle Fanning

Pretty girl. Horrendous, smegma-ugly shoes.

Don’t hate Elle Fanning for being born into stardom, for being an 18 year old worth $5 million-dollars-who-has-never-had-to-punch-a-timeclock-and-never-will (No,no,no,no,no,no,no . . .).

Don’t hate her for her genetic flat-iron hair dna that makes her wake up every morning with that good ‘do that only takes ten seconds out of her day while you and me gotta suffer with catty hair that won’t do as it’s told. No . . .

Elle must be hated for her willingness to bring such shoe ugliness into our lives to be preserved forever on the internet. I have a strong urge to snatch her butt ugly shoes and give them to my toddler nephew- he’ll mistake them for candy cane. Five minutes getting mauled by a three year old is just the improvement these shoes need.


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FEMALE PSYCHE – by Gary Smolker

Gary Smolker : December 6, 2016 7:57 am : blog

Guys, it is holiday gift giving season.



The sign above is in front of an organic nail salon on San Vicente Blvd. in the exclusive high priced fashionable Brentwood section of Los Angeles, California.

Think organic if that is your favorite woman’s frame of mind.

I know how to select and purchase the perfect gift for that special woman in your life.

You can be having a great time while doing that.

Read on.

There are stores selling organic products and/or providing organic services is all chic neighborhoods, in big cities and in small cities.


I took the photo above when I was in Pullman, Washington.

The Poppy  salon and spa is located at 80-150 N. Grand Avenue, Pullman, Washington.

“Organic” is a popular product description for most women everywhere.

From the rural countryside to the big city.

Pullman, Washington, for example, is a college down, located in rural countryside – located in the midst of a giant agricultural area.

But across the board, with women, women’s shoes are even more popular than the word “organic” attached to a product or service.

The Female Mind

From time to time, many men find it impossible to understand the intentions or the actions of females.

My very good friend Jason Fane recently sent me the following question.

“I was in a woman’s shoe department in a fancy store and saw some women’s dress shoes with many sharp spikes.  Why would a woman pay about $1,150 per pair and what message do they send?”

I quickly forwarded Jason’s question to my kitchen cabinet.

Gail, a high powered business executive in Northern California, gave me the most concise answer to Jason’s question.

“To be the center of attention..why else?  Negative attention can be just as good as positive attention to some.”

Libby, a 22 year old woman in my office who I work with, gave the most endearing answer.

“I saved my money and paid $1,000.00 to purchase a pair of Christian Louboutin shoes for my older sister as a Christmas gift two years ago.  Although my older sister loves shoes she hasn’t worn them yet.  She is afraid to scuff them.  She is waiting to wear them when she graduates from law school this year.  My older sister believes Christian Louboutin shoes are the best.  A pair of Christian Louboutin shoes costs between $1,000 and $7,500.”

Alanna, a hypnotherapist who works in the celebrity intense entertainment industry, gave the following explanation.

“$1,150 shoes are not owned by normal women.  They are worn by women who are around money and not afraid to spend it.  Celebrities wear those kind of shoes in order to be fashion leaders, to set themselves apart.  The quality of the shoe and the materials used, make the celebrities who wear them stand out and effect how they feel about themselves and life.”

A Picture Is Worth A Thousand Words

I asked Jason to send me a picture of the shoes being referred to.

Below is a photograph of those shoes.


[That photograph was taken in the Neiman Marcus Store, Bal Harbor, in Bal Harbor, Florida.]

From personal experience I know those shoes would look very sexy on a Latina while night clubbing, while dancing Salsa and/or the Mambo.

Jason – who lives in the Northeast  – isn’t familiar with what hot blooded Latin women wear in warm climates.

The Female Psyche

What women wear depends upon what they want to accomplish.

Don’t Let Life Surprise You

Women’s shoes can be very sexy.

Women are expert at non-verbal communication.

Learn “shoe language.”

Below are photographs of a pair of shoes displayed in the following order: “Kiss My Feet Shoes” and “Come Over to My Place Tonight” and a pair of “I Want to Kiss and Be Kissed Soon, but I Can Wait Until Tonight”, I took at a local Gucci Store this evening.



Photo: “I Want to Be Kissed and Kissed Soon, but I Can’t Wait Shoes”


I will be happy to teach you how to understand women “shoe language.”

Regarding the Female Psyche

No woman has ever had enough shoes.

Chocolate is good but shoes are carb free.

The key to the universe is understanding women’s relationship with their shoes.

Women believe style is a way to say who you are without having to speak.

Women also believe: Although clothes aren’t going to change the world, the woman who wears them will.

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Dude's Guide to Women's Shoes


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ADIDAS stands for “All Day I Dream About Sex.”

Gary Smolker : November 20, 2016 4:37 pm : blog

A Picture Is Worth A Thousand Words

Everyday is a fashion show.

The shoes and clothing people wear project an image of who they are to themselves and to everyone else who sees them.


But what does their closet look like?


There are more than 100 pair of Adidas tennis shoes on the floor in the closet shown above.

When he grew up in New York the owner of the Adidas tennis shoes pictured above believed cool people wear Adidas tennis shoes.

He still believes cool people wear Adidas tennis shoes.

When he got enough money he started purchasing Adidas Tennis Shoes and kept on doing so as he became more and more financially successful.

Obviously he has an organized mind.  Look at his closet now.


You can tell he is a successful person by looking at his closet.

Putting those same tennis shoes in the shoe rack pictured above makes those Adidas tennis shoes look like part of a piece of art.

You can imagine where he goes, what people think of him and what he does because he owns over a 100 pair of Adidas tennis shoes.

He wants to be “cool.”

He wants other people to think he is “cool.”

Being “Cool”

Many women want to be thought of as being “cool.”

In a woman’s mind every day is a fashion show.

Women need to wear the right pair of shoes with their clothes.

Fashion conscious women need a different pair of shoes to wear with each outfit.

The more clothes women own the more shoes they need, unless they only wear black shoes.

Life Is Simple When You Only Wear One Type of Shoe

The man who owns those Adidas tennis shoes has made things simpler.

In the normal course of events he is going to wear Adidas tennis shoes wherever he goes.

Being A Fashion Conscious Woman Is More Complicated

Depending on who they are and how much they care about their appearance, the more events a woman goes to the more pairs of shoes she needs.

Sending A Message

Women know women and men’s clothing is a statement sending a message.

Fashion “insiders” know that Adidas stands for “all I think about all day is sex.”

The man who owns those Adidas tennis shoes is sending a subtle coded message to other “cool” people.


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Dude's Guide to Women's Shoes

Gary S. Smolker, publisher, movie reviewer, social commentator
Gary S. Smolker Idea Exchange Blog

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Being Disorganized Is A Hassle and A Bad Omen… – by Gary S. Smolker

Gary Smolker : November 18, 2016 7:05 am : blog

People who live intensely collect things — women collect shoes; men collect cars; both men and women collect paintings and sculpture.

Contemporary Living

Shoes are a potent emblem of contemporary living.

Shoes transport us physically and psychologically.

A gorgeous woman wearing a pair of sexy red open toe high heel shoes has a psychological effect.

The shoes you wear send a message.

Artistic Expression

Beautiful women are an important part of the shoe design and making equation; beautiful women enable shoe makers to realize striking designs that might have been impractical for mass production.

On a beautiful woman the basic shape and styling of a shoe might attract our attention first.

For example see the series of photographs I took of a woman I met in a Cafe on Ventura Blvd. in Encino, California.



Having A Multitude of Shoes In Your Home Like Having An Art Collection In Your Home

If your shoes are in a closet that is a mess more likely than not the rest of your life is a mess too, and will continue to be a mess as long as your closet is a mess.

Mayhem is mayhem.

Don’t be like a bird that voluntarily cages itself.

Be organized.

Minimize hassles.

There is a price to pay for being disorganized.

A Disorganized Closet

Below is a picture of a disorganized closet with more than 100 pairs of Adidas shoes on the floor.

Shoes on the floor block access to cloths hanging on poles.

The owner of the shoes shown in that closet told me the following.

  • “Keeping track of which shoes you own is a problem.
  • “Being able to see all the shoes you own at one time can become impossible.
  • “Storing and displaying your shoes in the minimal amount of floor space in an organized fashion in a clothes closet is a challenge I have solved.
  • “I solved the problem by building a six foot high shoe rack and putting the majority of my shoes in the shoe rack.
  • “Before I solved that problem I had so many shoes on the floor of my closet that I couldn’t get access to my clothes in my closet without climbing over or through many shoes.
  • “It was impractical (a huge hassle) to get to the clothes in my closet.”

Below is the photograph that man sent me of how his closet used to look.

The owner of those shoes told me that at one point, he had to step over three feet of shoes laying on the floor in his closet in order to get to his clothes.
It got to the point that he stopped getting clothing out of his closet and instead began to wear something different that was in one of his drawers.

An Organized Closet

To solve this problem he installed a six foot high rack containing nine seven foot long shelves depicted in the photograph below.
Instead of having more than 100 pair of shoes on the floor of his closet he now has 30 pair of shoes on the floor in his closet and the rest of his shoes in a six foot high shoe rack.  See photograph below.



Final Report

“After  getting the rack to hold my shoes and organize the situation, everything became like shopping ever morning.
“I was able to see and read everything that I had and that was available.  Also I was able to keep track of everything I had so I could buy different and new shoes that wouldn’t overlap one another.
“Always having a variety is what was key.”

 Keeping Track of Shoes Owned

Knowing which shoes you own is a problem faced by many people.

Fashion, style, glamour and appearance conscious people who have enough money to buy an endless number of new shoes constantly buy new shoes.
If they impulsively buy a pair of “new” shoes they might find that they have bought another pair of the same style and color of shoes they already own.

Obsession vs Connoisseurship


A friend told me the man who owns those shoes either works for Adidas or has a considerable obsession.

I disagree.

Men and women appreciate beauty differently.

Women are into what they wear…. they are into the shoes, handbags, jewelry and clothes they wear.

Women are more appearance, fashion, beauty, and style conscious then men.

Many types and styles of women’s shoes are exquisitely designed works of art.


That is one of the reasons women own more shoes then men.

You need not have ever sat behind the wheel of a car to be enraptured by one.

Men Collect Cars

Men consider cars to be an art object – the consummate work of decorative art for the modern age.

Cars As An Art Object

Men are into cars.

Designer Ralph Lauren has a classic car collection.

A fine car represents status, power, celebrity, freedom and a lot more.


Ralph Lauren’s classic car collection was exhibited at the Museum of Fine Art, Boston.

On exhibit were twenty-nine automobiles which display his personal taste.

Popularity and Mass Appeal of Cars

Do not underestimate the world-wide appeal and popularity of fast cars, the world-wide appeal and popularity of race cars and/or the popularity of car racing.

Formula One racing is now one of the most popular sports in the world.

Mercedes team driver Lewis Hamilton is the fourth highest paid athlete in the world, with an annual salary exceeding that of Serena Williams, LeBron James, and Phil Mickelson combined.

Mercedes’ Formula One team has an annual budget of $467 million, and employs 700 full tie people in a new 15 acre Formula One Compound.  In staggered shifts, the employees work 24 hours a day, 7 days a week, designing, and constructing two cars that will be raced in the current Formula One season.

Each year 250,000 working hours are put into designing the vehicles, and 200,000 hours working hours are put into production.  And this is just one team.

Each Formula One race is broadcast throughout the world, attracting an annual viewership of 500 million.  The NFL, by contrast, peaks at 200 million.


A good thing about collecting shoes is you can wear them.

A good thing about collecting cars is you can drive them.

You can enjoy their visual qualities and you can use them.

They are highly functional works of beauty.


What a person collects represents their sophistication, wealth, sense of style and taste.

What a person collects creates their aura and presence.

You are what you wear.

You are what you drive.


Everyone wants to own something that will carry them away, something that is an entry into other worlds.

Everyone want to own something that is endearing in some way.

That is why we collect shoes, clothes, cars and other things.



Gary Smolker, fashion blogger
Dude’s Guide to Women’s Shoes

Gary S. Smolker, publisher, movie reviewer, social commentator
Gary S. Smolker Idea Exchange

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Gary Smolker : October 29, 2016 4:32 pm : blog

Donald Trump Meets the Statute of Liberty

My question to you is: What do you think is being communicated in the cartoon (below) showing Donald Trump meeting the Statute of Liberty?


My take on that cartoon is:

“We don’t see things as they are, we see things as we are.” – Anais Nin

The Pursuit of Happiness In the United States

The comments and jokes the election of Donald Trump as President of the United States has elicited proves to me that we don’t see things as they are, we see things as we are.

My question to you is: What social trend do you think the victory of Donald Trump over Hillary Clinton to be the next President of the United States represents?

I invite you to post your social comment on the role of women and/or on why Donald Trump won the election and/or why Hillary Clinton lost the election at the end of this blog post or or at the end of a similar post on the Gary S. Smolker Idea Exchange Blog at or send your social comment directly to me at

My question is: Why are so many people in the United States unhappy?

Did Hillary Clinton lose the election because the people who vote in the United States

  • (A) are not ready to have a woman President or
  • (B) because they are unhappy or
  • (C) Hillary Clinton did not follow the secret rules for how a girl/woman is supposed to behave and Donald Trump followed the secret rules for how boys/men are supposed to behave, or
  • (D) Hillary Clinton is not hip, and
  • (E) Donald Trump is hip, or
  • (F) For some other reason?

My question is: What is the role of women in the United States?

Speaking out is healthy.

You are welcome to be “real” by letting people reading this post know your opinion and point of view.

Being Smart Is Complicated

Life is a path.

Enjoy the Ride of Reading the Correspondence I Had with Cartoonist Eric Teitelbaum About the Pursuit of Happiness and Being Hip in the United States. You are Invited to Read that Correspondence Over My Shoulder.

I have known Eric Teitelbaum since we were in the 8th Grade together at Nellie N. Kaufman Junior High School in Palm Springs, California.

Although I was funnier and more of a cut-up than Eric, Eric grew up to become an internationally famous cartoonist and my consultant on how to be hip.

On October 24, 2016, i posted a movie review of “Nocturnal Animals” on my Gary S. Smolker Idea Exchange Blog at and notified Eric that I had done so.

I posted a recent picture of myself at the end of that email.


I then asked Eric:

  • “What is your definition of “hip” and
  • Why is it desirable to be hip?”
  • Why are so many of ‘hip’ people not satisfied with their lives?’


Eric commented on my “Uncool Appearance” in an email reply.

I then asked Eric if he is a perfectionist workaholic provocateur.

See copy of exchange of emails below.

On Oct 26, 2016 8:09 AM, “Gary Smolker” <> wrote:


Are you a perfectionist workaholic provocateur?

Check our the excerpt below from my post (posted last night on Dude’s Guide to Women’s Shoes at www.dudesguidetowomensshoes.dom) titled WHEN WOMEN HAVE A MESSAGE TO SEND THEY FLAUNT IT.
Below is an excerpt from a post on Dude’s Guide to Women’s Shoes posted on October 25, 2016.
That woman is wearing high heels.
Look at her high heels.
Look at her good looking body.
Are the pictures above charged with erotic frisson?
Check out my entire piece on the role of woman titled WHEN WOMEN HAVE A MESSAGE TO SEND THEY FLAUNT IT, posted last night on Dudes Guide to Women’s Shoes at
By the way, don’t forget to ride a motorcycle.

The Secret Rules

THE WORLD’S SECRET RULES FOR BOYS/MEN: Emotions are forbidden, that to be a successful boy a boy needs to ‘buck up and be a man.’  Every day boys are on a field or on a court or in the street or an empty lot playing sports.  Body to body that is how boys feel seen, known loved.  Boys build their identity with their bodies. A boys whole life is a retreat into his body.  Boys understand “love” to be the joining of two bodies.  For many men, a woman’s body is a toy he likes to play with.

THE WORLD’S SECRET RULES FOR GIRLS/WOMEN: The world wants women to be small, quiet, and uncomplicated and not to grow to big, loud and complex. The rules, of course, are: Thinness is Beauty. Beauty is Power.  Power is being chosen by the Boys.

Smart Is More Complicated than Beautiful.

Hillary Clinton didn’t follow those rules.

That is why so many smart women got behind Hillary Clinton.

Daughters Are A Smart Dad’s Victory

That is why so many smart loving fathers who have smart daughters got behind Hillary Clinton.

Respect for Secret Rules of Social Conduct

In the real world, men and women follow those rules.

Human Consequences of Following Secret Rules of Social Conduct

  • Following those rules is one of the many reasons relationships between men and women don’t work more.
  • Because many voters believe in and follow those those rules Donald Trump won the election to be the next President of the United States.

Many people consider Donald Trump to be a healthy successful grown-up because he follows/followed those “secret rules.”

Many people do not consider Hillary to be a healthy successful grown-up because Hillary did not follow and does not follow the “secret rules.”

Eric Is An Artist

I know artists work when they feel like working.
I know artists do what they feel like doing when they fell like doing it.
Below is a picture of the type of motorcycle I told Eric I have in mind for Eric.

Life Is More Artistic Than Art Can Ever Be

Warmest regards,


Gary Smolker, fashion blogger
Dude's Guide to Women's Shoes

Gary S. Smolker, publisher, movie reviewer, social commentator
Gary S. Smolker Idea Exchange Blog

Eric’s First Reply

“Yo Gary!

“Stop worrying — You are HIP!…but you even appear more HIP by looking less UNCOOL…

“Here’s the secret sauce:

  • Hire a stunt double to stand in for all your photos … (maybe a Ryan Seacrest type…I hear he works cheap!)
  • Get some work done— Maybe a little face, neck, rhino or liposuction…(all the while announcing on your web site that you intend to age gracefully)
  • Commit a minor crime…then in lieu of rehab. appear on ‘Dancing with the Stars!’

“Trust me, Gary, it just may work.

“In good humor,

Eric, Eric Teitelbaum, Cartoonist:  “The Pink Panther Comox”, “Buttomliners”, and “The New Yorker”

Eric’s Second and Further Reply

To my good friend Gary,

I love the ‘lighter side’ as much as you do…btw: great motorcycle! 🙂


Today’s political gag:



“So many Celebrities are threatening to move to Canada that most Canadians are threatening to move to Alaska.”


Once upon a time the hidden truest rules for how to matter as a girl were:

  • Be Thin.
  • Be Pretty.
  • Be Quiet.
  • Be In vulnerable.
  • Be Popular by Following the Powerful Boys’ Lead.
  • Do not disrupt the universe with any of your feelings or your questions.

Are those still the rules?


On October 29, 2016, my friend Mayer Horn sent me a copy of an October 27, 2016  “New York Times” article titled “A SCULPTOR REAPS THE REWARDS OF ART DEALS BROKERED IN THE BEDROOM.”

The gist of the article is that artist Skye Ferrante makes wire portrait sculptures of nude women that are then sold by the women “models” and Skye to these women’s lovers and/or clients. Sky and the models share the proceeds 50:50.

According to the article one customer said, the sculptures he bought was beautifully constructed. “Its depiction of the woman, her hair unruly and her eyes closed, was abstract enough for anyone to appreciated, but realistic enough that he – though not his wife – could still recognize her.”

The buyer also said that his wife liked the sculpture, “…adding quickly that she ‘doesn’t know anything about it.'”

Some of the sculptures have been displayed in the buyers’ homes, with few who saw them knowing what had inspired them.

After reading this article, my reply to Mayer was:

“Great article.

“Who hasn’t given a gift to such a woman – a woman who is a rock star among rock stars?

“Better yet, who hasn’t received a gift from such a woman?”

Did Hillary Clinton lose the election because compared to how masculine Donald Trump is Hillary Clinton wasn't/isn't feminine enough to be the first female President of the United States?

Did Hillary lose the election because she didn't wear high heels?

Gary Smolker, fashion blogger
Dude's Guide to Women's Shoes

Gary S. Smolker, publisher, movie reviewer, social commentator
Gary S. Smolker Idea Exchange Blog


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